Everyone is guilty of wanting more in their life than they already have, but why is it that only a few seem to reach their goals and dreams?
When you were young and had this unbelievable imagination, you knew that anything was possible. You could play sport for your favourite team or country, you could be a film or rock star, a doctor, pilot or even an astronaut. What happened, what changed?
Well, I’m going to let you know something really cool…it’s not too late! It’s time to stop wishing what you want or could be, and it’s time to start rethinking your goals, and start achieving them.
Too often in our lives, we put our goals on the back burner because something has come up, or we feel like we can’t do it, or we wonder what others will think. But now I’m going to give you 5 hacks to help you achieve the goals you set.
1. “THE WAY TO GET STARTED IS TO QUIT TALKING, AND START DOING” – Walt Disney
It’s great to set goals. Telling others about them will also keep you accountable, but at some point you have to start putting your words into action. Once you’ve set the vision, you have to start. It doesn’t have pe berfect! ;p
I want to be an author, coach, speaker and public figure. Someone who brings value to people. I kept on telling myself that was my goal and dream. Then my mentor told me that he was tired of hearing me talk about it all the time. He said, “you either are or you’re not, until you are actually doing it, whether you’re good or bad, you’re are just dreaming.”
The more you keep working on what you are trying to achieve, the better it will get over time. If you want to be a writer, start writing. If you want to lose weight, start exercising and eating better. If you want things to change, stop doing what you have always done. Basically, if you know what you want to do, just do it!
2. “SUCCESS OCCURS WHEN OPPORTUNITY MEETS PREPARATION” – Zig Ziglar
Achieving your goals is not going to be an easy task. You need to work on it every day. Whatever it is that you want to achieve, it has to be your focus. You can’t just wake up and go with the flow, and expect everything to fall into place. You need to have a plan and be prepared under any circumstance. I recommend keeping a journal, writing down all the things you want to achieve in your day, week, month and year. When you’re clear with what needs to be done every day, then you are prepared for mostly anything. If something comes up that does not reflect your goals, this planning will help prevent you from getting sidetracked.
3. REVIEW YOUR GOALS AT LEAST TWICE A DAY.
Life can really take over some days, and we lose track of what we are trying to accomplish. It’s great that you have got started, and even better that you have written it down and have a plan of attack. Unfortunately, we are human and things come up that bring us down. This is why I believe that reviewing your goals a couple of times a day helps you stay focused and on track. My hack for this is setting a reminder on my phone, with my goals. I see them and read them and believe them. As I use my laptop, iPad, and iPhone a lot, I have these reminders all the time. I also have a vision board that reflects my goals, this way I can visualise them more.
4. DON’T LET ANYONE OR ANYTHING STOP YOU FROM ACHIEVING YOUR GOALS.
One of the biggest reasons for people not starting, not achieving, or even giving up on their goals, is they listen to others. People will tell them that it’s too hard or it’s impossible, and that they should just be happy with what they’ve got. This is a dangerous place to be, because it is at this point where things in your life can change. You will either live a life of purpose and fulfilment, or you will live a life of regret. Unless the opinion of others can pay your bills, you shouldn’t listen to them. At first they will mock you, and ask “why are you doing this?” Then you’ll show them, and they will ask you how you did it!
5. WHATEVER YOUR GOAL IS, MAKE IT BIGGER.
Finally, I want you to reach for the moon, because if you miss it, at least you’ll land amongst the stars. No goal can be too big, so don’t be afraid to think big. You know deep down in your heart what you really want. Don’t bullshit yourself! If you know in your heart that you want something, and then a voice says you cant, that’s just fear. That instinct does not belong here! It belongs when we are faced with danger, like a tiger just about to pounce. The fight or flight fear that hits us in survival situations does not help us achieve our dreams.
this isn’t a dress rehearsal, and there are no second chances. Set your goals, go big and regret nothing!
There are things in your life that are sabotaging your chances of living a fulfilling, successful life. Here are 5 things I believe that you need to get rid of in your life now:
1. GET RID OF NEGATIVE PEOPLE
You are the average of the 5 people you hang out with most, and if they are negative people, then that’s what you’re going to be.
Don’t let negative people tell you how the world is supposed to be! Find that out for yourself. If you want to be better, then spend more time with people you look up to, people who are where you want to be in life. The more positive people you hang out with the better. Your positive friends don’t waste their time with losers, and you will learn that from them, and before you know it, you will start having a more positive life.
2. GET RID OF ALL THE BS
I have this conversation with my clients all the time, and is one of the main things we focus on.
What you do daily to achieve your goals in life can always be interrupted with a whole lot of BS! That’s right, bullshit! These are things that you do that do not reflect the things you want to achieve. You waste so much time on things that don’t serve your purpose, things like watching TV! How many hours in a week do you spend watching commercials? If you watch a program that goes for a half hour, you are watching 10 minutes of commercials. If you watch an average of 6 hours of TV per day, that would be an average of 1 hour of commercials you watch per day, so in over a week you’ve spent, on average, 7 hours watching commercials. This is only one bit of bullshit in your life, we haven’t looked at others yet. Social media and video games are just couple of other things to add to the list of BS. My tip; At the end of the day, write down everything you have done. If it doesn’t align with your goals, then it’s BS.
3. GET RID OF THE OPINIONS OF OTHERS
If you had to wait to get the approval of everyone to do something you wanted to do, you wouldn’t do anything. Just remember, it is none of your business what others think of you. Focus on what your goals are, and stop worrying about what others think. All the successful people out there don’t give a rat’s ass what others think of them. That’s why they are not afraid to take risks.
4. GET RID OF NEGATIVE THOUGHTS
This is a really tough one. Our true potential is limited by our negative thoughts. It’s a battle we face every day, and it’s something that some of the most successful people have to face too, however they discipline themselves to be aware of their thoughts and practice changing them. If we can learn to identify when we are experiencing these thoughts, and try to train our minds to just let it brush by like a tumbleweed in the desert, we will start to see some changes in our lives. When you start to replace negative thoughts with positive ones, no matter how big or small, you will start to see some positive results.
5. GET RID OF GIVING UP
Now that we have some solid things to work on, we just have to see it through. It’s so common that when people find things getting a little tough, they choose to give up, just quit. This is something we need to change. If it were easy, then everyone would do it! It’s the disciplined, hard-working people that achieve what others won’t. So if you are looking to make some changes in your life, and you want to achieve some amazing things, then see it through! When you feel like throwing in the towel, that’s when you need to have a go.
Being successful is not easy! If it was, everyone would do it.
There are always going to be challenges along the way to achieving your goals, no matter what they are. But if you can make a plan that is easy to follow and you stick to it, you can have an unfair advantage when you come across these challenges.
Here are my TOP 9 Daily Practices that keep me motivated and inspired. (Now don’t get me wrong. These steps are very easy to follow, but some days it can be very, very challenging!)
There are many forms of meditation, and there is no right or wrong one to choose from. It’s more of a personal decision when choosing a style. Whether you do it for 3 minutes, 30 minutes or an hour, the idea is to do it. Meditation is also known to reduce stress, improve concentration and promote a healthier and happier lifestyle.
I like to do anywhere between 5 and 10 minutes a day.
Putting your goals in writing and having them up on your wall is such a powerful tool! You can have them up in your office, in your bedroom or even in your bathroom. Seeing your goals every day can keep you motivated, and help you stay focused on what you are actually trying to do.
In my office I have a white board with my goals written down, as well as a vision board with images that inspire me. The other little gem is re-writing my goals in my journal just before I head to bed.
3. Stop Complaining
I know complaining doesn’t get you anywhere, but sometimes we just can’t help it! After all, it’s human nature, right? Well, not for successful people! This was made even more clear to me after reading “The 10 X Rule” by Grant Cardone. It was in chapter 6, “Assume Control of Everything,” when he told the reader he was actually going to call that chapter “Don’t Be a Little Bitch!” I laughed out loud, but it was like having a mindfulness bell go off. All day that day, anytime I caught myself complaining in my head or out loud, all I would think of was chapter 6, or DBALB, just like a mindfulness bell. What a difference it made for me! I found myself laughing all day, not realising how much I actually complained about the small things.
We have all heard this a million times, but it’s only because it’s true. There are so many ways you can exercise, and everyone has their opinion on what is best. There is only one right way, and that’s the Nike way, “Just Do It.” Getting a coach is a great idea too. They can design a program to suit your goals, give you guidance on nutrition, keep you motivated and accountable. You can have a coach whom you can see face to face, or an online coach. When looking for a coach, I recommend that you interview them first. After all, you are hiring them to work for you!
5. Positive People
“You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with” – Jim Rohn
I heard once that if you were the smartest person in your street, it was time for you to move! It’s so true. This happened when I used to play golf. If I was put in a group of hackers who would take forever to get to the green, I found my game would get worse by the time I got to the 18th. But when I was in a group of golfers who were much better than me, my game would lift. The point of the story is that when you surround yourself with people who are at a higher level than you, or where you want to be in life, your game will lift.
Ways you can surround yourself with the right people:
- Seek friends who challenge you in a positive way
- Get rid of negative people in your life
- Join a mastermind group (people who share your interests)
- Attend network functions
- See number 6
6. Listen to Audio Books or Podcasts
Listening to audio books or podcasts can be a great way to get motivated or inspired. I love to listen to these when I’m driving or in the gym. It’s an opportunity for me to learn new things from people that I admire. I have been attending automobile university for nearly five years now, and I’m definitely going to enrol next year!
There are podcasts and audio books on many different topics, so whatever you are interested in, there will be something out there for you. Podcasts are great too because pretty much all of them are free. One of my favourites right now is EOFire with John Lee Dumas, which is a podcast for entrepreneurs with new guests every day. Ted Talks are another good choice, with a variety of topics. There are so many out there, just type in your interests when searching for podcasts and give it a go. If nothing comes up, guess what? You have just found a new niche!
7. Have a Mentor or Accountability Partner
Having someone you can talk to is so important. This should be someone other than friends and family, someone who is more experienced in the area you are interested in. It doesn’t matter how old you are, or how old your mentor is, if they have certain expertise and are willing to mentor you, then go for it!
No matter what happens in your day, find three things that you are truly grateful for. This is a great way to stop, slow down and reflect on what’s really going on, and you can do this anytime! It is also useful in those moments you feel like nothing is going your way. When you can still see what’s good in your life, it strengthens you and helps you through the bad. I like to do this before I go to bed, as it helps me end the day on a positive note.
9. Have a Why
Doing all these things that I have talked about to keep you motivated comes down to one question, “WHY?”
What is your purpose? Why do you get up in the morning? Why do you grind it day in and day out? Probably the most famous person asking this question at the moment is author Simon Sinek. He has written a book called “Start with Why,” and has a famous TED Talk with the same title.
Although I’m finishing my list off with Why, I just want you to remember start with Why. Your Why is what keeps you going through those trying times. If you want to do anything in life start with Why, because as Mark Twain once said, “The two most important days in your life is the day you were born and the day you knew why.”